zeldathemes

iatrogenic:

sweaterbitches:

healingschemas:

brightstartheory:

Dealing with strong, painful emotions can be overwhelming and even lead to thoughts that your situation is so unfixable that the only way out is suicide. That is NOT true nor the case and every situation is either fixable or something you CAN get through. But when you’re in a high-stress emotional state, we can no longer think logically and do what we can to help ourselves. So the first thing we must do is get ourselves calm down enough to be able to use a coping skill.

* Breathing out longer than you breathe in actually activates your parasympathetic nervous system!

Anxiety is your sympathetic nervous system (“fight or flight”) setting off all the alarms, while breathing like this will set the parasympathetic system (“rest and digest”) into action shutting off the alarms and settling your nerves.

Other things that help: laughing, checking out what’s going on around you (moving head and eyes to orient to your surroundings), getting curious about something. (via notyrqueer)

Note: if you have any medication for anxiety that you are prescribed to take in high stress situations (as opposed to a set time and dosage you do every day on a routine) and you have not reached your maximum prescribed dosage, this might be a good time to take it. But only if you need it.

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Once you’ve gotten yourself into a calmer state, we can start to use what’s called our wise mind. Basically we have our emotional mind (which I’m sure we’re all quite familiar with) and our logical or rational mind. Wise mindis the idea that neither one nor the other, but both of these combined is the best way to think about what to do and how to react. If we just used our emotional mind, we’ll get lost in our pain. If we only use our logical mind, we’ll be invalidating our emotions and ignoring that those are important and valid and must be included in how you choose to respond or see a situation. So when you use your wise mind, you can make a more balanced decision.

Learn more about wise mind here, here, and here.

** Once you are able to be a bit more calm and use your wise mind, you should do what you can to ease whatever it is that is upsetting you. First ask yourself, “Is this the right time to deal with this?” For example, do you need to go to sleep soon so you are fully rested? Would doing so disturb others around you (like doing loud activities while others are sleeping)? Would it negatively affect you to do this right now (the person who is angry is still angry and needs space)? If after consider if it really is the right time to do this right now, and you think it is, then it’s time to fix the problem.

Is it homework? Start working on it. Procrastination will only increase the anxiety as it puts more and more pressure on you the less time you have. (Remember to breathe.) Is it chores? Go get them done. Is it a problem with a friend or loved one? If they are open to talking about it at this time, try that. (There could be a whole post on relationship effectiveness but you can find some information here and here.) Is it making some phone calls? Get them done. 

Note: It is entirely okay to ask for help if these things are too overwhelming to do alone. Ask a trusted friend or family member to either sit with you while you make a call, for example, so you can look to them if you need to know what to say or for reassurance that you’re doing okay. Maybe have someone sit near you while you do homework so you know you’re safe. If you can, have someone work through it with you to lessen the load.

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† If the problem can’t be fixed right this minute, or it is not the right time to do it, then do what you can to prepare yourself. One way you can do this is through radical acceptance. That means to accept your situation as it is, that you cannot change it right now, and you will have to deal with it. With radical acceptance, you can look at what’s in front of you and really give yourself the ability to problem solve. If you focus too much on what life should be like, or what should have happened instead, or what you or someone else should have done, then you are not looking at the problem in front of you. You are trying to change the past so that it’s not a problem anymore. But the fact is that it is, and it’s upsetting you, so you have to accept that it is happening so that you can do something about it. 

Learn more about radical acceptance here and here.

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‡ If there is nothing you can do right now, then it’s time to focus on what we can do, which is to improve the moment and make “right now” better. The way we do this is to use a coping skill. This means choosing to do activities or actions that make you feel better either by soothing yourself through the senses, being kind to yourself, doing something that can affect the mind through the body (like exercise or calming tea), or distracting yourself. There is more to it than that, but for right now, pick through the list below and choose a few that might help you and remember them. (Maybe keep a journal of things that end up helping you so you can refer back to it in a high emotional state.)

  • Listen to music
  • Go for a walk
  • Take a relaxing bath or shower
  • Drink some tea
  • Deep breathing (5 counts in, 5 counts out)
  • Call/text a friend
  • Meditate
  • Stretch
  • Think about something you are grateful for
  • Make a list of things you are grateful for
  • Watch a funny video
  • Eat your favorite snack while savoring the flavors
  • Take a nap
  • Journal (write your thoughts/feelings) …. 
Click here to see the rest of the list.
 
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I know sometimes it can feel like coping skills won’t help and that because they’re not fixing the event that originally caused the distress, but remember that you can’t think about how to deal with a situation properly when you are solely in your emotional mind. It cuts off your ability to reason fully. So if you can find a way to make yourself feel better, not only will it make it easier to handle the situation at hand, but you being happy is important. You are important. You really deserve to be happy and nothing is unfixable. There are steps you can take to feel better. You just have to give it a try.
Note: This post and the information and links provided are not a replacement for real, medical treatment. Please do not stop taking your medication or change your dosage without your doctor’s consent or knowledge.
If you are suicidal or thinking about harming yourself please call 911 or call the National Suicidal Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. (U.S. only. To find the suicidal hotline for your country, click here.)

DBT Self-Help Resources: Coping with Extreme Emotions

Tbh this is basically all you learn in rehab and psych wards
And in some cases it’s more…

holy shit, all of DBT in a tumblr post, excellent. (well, okay, not ALL of it. I was in a really good psych ward and we learned this but also a lot more than this and were guided really well, so the internet and dbt books can’t replace good therapy, but they CAN replace shitty programs, I was very lucky.) but this is a really good primer if you have considered seeing what dbt is all about!

created by one of my two career idols, marsha linehan. (even though I don’t believe in psychoanalysis, the other one is elyn saks still, just because she did it. but man, marsha linehan.)

protocol00:

maxvesta:

discordsparkle:

arkhamboundz:

rincewitch:

leosboots:

littlekoalaotter:

It took Katara about .532 seconds to take zuko down

"Here for a rematch?" HE ASKED THE WATERBENDER WHILE STANDING ON A GLACIER ISLAND SURROUNDED BY WATER

lmao

"Here for a rematch?" HE ASKED THE WATERBENDER WHILE STANDING ON A GLACIER ISLAND SURROUNDED BY WATER

hey protocol00

so we meet again

loki-of-sassgaard:

kayathedragon:

aganami:

This isn’t right. You’re supposed to be with me!

The actual definition of what some guys think when the girl says “no”.

"OMG I did this and that for YOU, you must date me!"

Hell no. If I don’t like you, I won’t date you.

This movie is fucking golden.

YES CAN WE TALK ABOUT THIS MOVIE

Megamind has the ultimate example of a “nice guy”, Hal, who liked Roxanne - and he was clear about it. He “complimented” several things to her in the beginning, which guess what - were not flattering at all, but downright creepy, so really, it was no wonder Roxanne didn’t like him.

But after he gets his superpowers, he expects her to - he expects to be rewarded for being the “good guy”, despite the fact that he hasn’t really done anything for her. When she rejects him and later finds out that she had dated Megamind for a time, he’s furious that she would date the “bad guy” when he is the “good guy”.

Yet despite Megamind being “bad” and Hal being “good”, it’s Megamind who respects what she wants - when she told him to back off, he backed off, and then later apologized, while Hal was legit going to kill her for rejecting him. So really, who is the good guy?

I have seriously never seen a more frightening movie villain than Hal.

asmrran:

library-worms:

“DON’T LOOK AT ME I AM SODA.”

No joke, I’ve reblogged this 20+ times. This cat is my spirit animal.

hot-topic-trash-baby:

I want to be spoiled but I also feel extremely guilty when people use money on me

oimatchstickman:

wobbufetts:

aidn:

how the hell do i talk to people

Stand in front of them and press A

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amazinginterior:

New Post has been published on http://www.amazinginteriordesign.com/make-cute-sock-dragon-kids/

Make This Cute Sock Dragon for Your Kids

Images via:  craft passion 
To make this sock dragon you will require two pairs of socks. The first will be in a single color like the orange pair above and the second will be striped. Take the first colored sock and place it over the striped sock in the way shown. Mark it as explained in the photo. Also mark a line on the striped sock. Draw the spikes and wings on the striped socks leaving the part to be used for belly. Then draw the arms and feet on the second colored sock using  this template. 
 Sew the striped piece for belly to the body. Sew the body, spikes, arms, feet and wings leaving a bit opened to make them inside out. Then bring all the pieces inside out and stuff them. Detail the face of the dragon.
 Also sew the spikes to it. Sew yellow patches to the feet and attach the wings. Also make a tongue with red felt and attach that too.
 A cute sock dragon is ready for your kids. If you want further details view the comprehensive tutorial at  Craft Passion.

amazinginterior:

New Post has been published on http://www.amazinginteriordesign.com/make-cute-sock-dragon-kids/

Make This Cute Sock Dragon for Your Kids

a

Images via: craft passion

To make this sock dragon you will require two pairs of socks. The first will be in a single color like the orange pair above and the second will be striped. Take the first colored sock and place it over the striped sock in the way shown. Mark it as explained in the photo. Also mark a line on the striped sock. Draw the spikes and wings on the striped socks leaving the part to be used for belly. Then draw the arms and feet on the second colored sock using this template.

b
Sew the striped piece for belly to the body. Sew the body, spikes, arms, feet and wings leaving a bit opened to make them inside out. Then bring all the pieces inside out and stuff them. Detail the face of the dragon.

c
Also sew the spikes to it. Sew yellow patches to the feet and attach the wings. Also make a tongue with red felt and attach that too.

d
A cute sock dragon is ready for your kids. If you want further details view the comprehensive tutorial at Craft Passion.

trombono:

stayathomedadwanttobe:

trombono:

Do you ever look at your really old work and just…!!???!??

Shout out to all my fellow creators 

I hope the stuff I wrote when I was 17 never gets out…

I hope the stuff I wrote at 12 doesn’t get out. That shit’s TERRIFYING.

drinkandthedevil:

OH MY GOD 

drinkandthedevil:

OH MY GOD 

anarchists-for-big-government:

aperture-of-consciousness:

getting turnt af with the holy spirit

I don’t know how you could ever be more sterotypically innocent than to be a 91-year-old Vatican librarian. How do you have 8 pounds of fucking coke in your car.

anarchists-for-big-government:

aperture-of-consciousness:

getting turnt af with the holy spirit

I don’t know how you could ever be more sterotypically innocent than to be a 91-year-old Vatican librarian. How do you have 8 pounds of fucking coke in your car.

micdotcom:

10 simple rules for not being a racist white person

By taking the leadership of people of color in the broader conversation about eradicating racism, whites can take steady, even simple steps towards becoming allies in the fight against racial inequality, not merely bystanders — or worse, perpetuators.

Read 7, 9 and 10 | Follow micdotcom 

zeekayart:

a guide for people who can’t tell the 90s from the early 2000s apart

  • if people are dressed in neon, it’s the 90simage
  • if people are dressed in space age metallics, it’s the 2000simage

jlplummer:

michaeljruocco:

rufftoon:

First look of Popeye/ CG animation test 

The animation starts at 2:00. The opening is pretty interesting to listen to as well.

The movements. Sooooo cartoony!! Whoever rigged those characters knows magic or something.

Well that blew away MY expectations… wonderful stuff! Now I REALLY can’t wait for the movie!

I am so in love with every bit of this.